We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!
Today, Ellen is married with two children and lives in New York, and Sherrie is married with a teenage daughter and lives in New Jersey.
We did The Rules, wrote The Rules, and have helped millions of women do The Rules, too. Whether you were recently hurt or haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you want immediate gratification and compensation for all the pain and heartache of recent years or even decades.
But get a grip and tell yourself there is no shortcut to courtship, things take time, so you must not act impatiently or desperately.
You are a CUAO (Creature Unlike Any Other), remember?
We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.
We put two and two together, and wrote and wrote, and that’s how The Rules were born!We had no idea The Rules would become a bestseller…we just wanted to help women stop making mistakes and get the men of their dreams—and that’s what we still do now, 20 years later!You need to force yourself to refrain from saying anything too intense or negative that could scare a man away.Unfortunately, no matter what your heart says, you must hold back a bit for your own good.Here are Rules to help you be light and breezy in your e-mails: It all sounds good on paper, but you cannot write “soul mate” and think you will get one that way.