You're going to find a lot of people who are just looking for basic relationships.They want somebody that's going to be loving towards them, and that will take care of them. For me specifically, I've come to the point in my life where I appreciate a man who knows how to take care of a woman. But also, I'm working 70-80 hours a week, so if he's working 70-80 hours a week too and we're both traveling, somebody's going to have to cut back on their work schedule. Both of these individuals were very high-profile people, very famous — one of them was a little bit of politics and a lot of business, and the other one was in entertainment and dabbled a little bit in business as well.
There's still a taboo around an older man paying lavishly for the company of a much younger woman — while the women are sometimes portrayed as either victims or prostitutes.
But not every Sugar Baby is a 20-something trying to pay her way through school.
We spoke with "T", a 40-year-old consultant who lives in Virginia.
T makes $150,000 a year, and uses the site to find what she calls "mutually beneficial" relationships.
She talked about what it's like to be a Sugar Baby, her past Sugar Daddies, and if the site is really as bad as it seems.
Why did you sign up to be a member of Seeking Arrangement?I have been in two long-term mutually-beneficial situations in the past.My intention was to go on the site and meet like-minded people. My profile tends to intimidate, it's kind of a weeding out process. I'm older, but then I've found there's something for everybody and every taste, just like any typical dating site. The men that I tend to attract are very dynamic, successful, been-there-done-that kinds of men.How many people on average reach out to you a day on the site? It can be anywhere from 15 to 20, to as many as around 100. The Sugar Daddies that may approach other women would not necessarily approach me. They don't want the typical airhead that they have to lead around.They wait, and if I approach them they say, "I saw your profile, but I was a little intimidated so I'm glad you reached out to me." What makes it intimidating? I mean I'm 5'10'' — if you put 6'' Louboutins on me, I tend to be a little scary. I've had a lot of men comment on how highly educated I am. They want somebody who they can speak intellectually with, talk business with, and who they are proud to be seen with by their business compatriots.And then when you get to the meat of my profile, you can see it's not my first time at the rodeo, and that I know what I'm looking for. But also someone who can twist them into a pretzel in the bedroom. Everyone on there is going to be looking for something different.